I hold weekly social gatherings in a different restaurant each week. These are social gatherings. This is not a swinger, hookup, or dating club. My club is strictly social. We engage in playful intelligent conversation with such topics as humor, books, movies, technology, sex, TWSS, philosophy, medicine, health, LINUX, psychology, OKCupid, and KITTENS!Who?
From the many corners of my complicated life, I have assembled a collection of smart, thoughtful, funny, geeky people.Some member statistics:
Weekly turnout size averages 8, rarely drops below 4, and has never exceeded 16, thankfully, considering the total membership now exceeds 100. Of the total about 80% of the total membership is bi, about 4% is gay, about 80% is female, about 10% identifies as gender-queer, or intergender. Outside of generalized percentages there are about 5 Transgender members and 3 Intersex members that I know of. The percentage of members claiming to be Polyamorous appears to hover around 30%, but I continue to insist this is not actually a Poly Club, even if it is true that Poly people seem very happy here.
There are no limits on age, only on interpersonal behavior. Those who show up on a regular basis tend to range in age from 25-65. It is difficult to generalize us, except to say that Conservatives have not shown any interest in us. ;-)Where?
Locations and scheduling are revealed selectively on a personal basis. No strangers! Once I've met someone, and provided they seem like someone who would enjoy such events and not upset other members, I may choose to take their email address and subscribe them to monthly calendars of events. That's called being a member. There are no dues. You are only required to pay for your own meals at the restaurants where we meet.
Lest you fear that some creepy person you've met on OKCupid is likely to show up and make you miserable, fear not, stalkerish behavior is prohibited. I don't necessarily remove anyone on the first complaint. I talk to them first. If the behavior continues, they are unceremoniously removed. I regret to say I've had to do this a few times since the club began in 2005. Stalker aversion was built into the club model since day 1. I'll not make the Titanic
mistake of calling the club unstalkerable, but it is certainly stalker resistant.
Meetings take place in restaurants primarily in the regions of Gaithersburg MD, Rockville MD, Laurel MD, DC, and Herndon VA. It continues to surprise me how many people are willing to drive an hour or two for these 2-4 hour events. I guess my club is even cooler than I think. ;-)When?
Most events fall on Thursdays, and begin about 7 or 8pm. About once a month I schedule an event on a Tuesday.
Those who join are not expected to appear every week, if they did, roughly 135 people would descend on every restaurant, violating all kinds of safety regulations. We have members who receive the monthly events calendars and appear only once every couple of years. Hopefully this explanation will entice a few people who only ever come to DC for inaugurations or to visit relatives.How?
Once you are a member you can invite others. You are responsible for anyone you invite. Until they become members, you must either precede or accompany them to and from events. You are responsible for ushering them out if they become unruly. Sorry if I sound like a dictator there, but I've seen some pretty sketchy people with some very strange ideas about how to behave in public.Why?
Because you're special!
Okay, that was cute but no. The real, actual, original reason I started this club was to appease a dear friend who, like so many of us, finds the societally accepted, rowdy behavior of most 'normal' people distressing. Through much discussion and analysis, together we set out to design a fun, free, borderline utopian social order where people like us could have a good time without anyone's feelings getting hurt. I set out on this journey without very high expectations and was pleasantly surprised to discover that our social ideals were appreciated by far more people than I ever would have expected.
When I began this club, I didn't honestly believe it would garner more than 35 total members, and here we are at about 135 at last count. I also never anticipated that I would receive nearly as much appreciation for having begun and maintained it all these years. It has been extremely satisfying and fun. If you reading this and like what you see, please let me know and I will get back to you and try to arrange a time you can join our group and see if it seems to be a good fit.Contact Me:
As my OKC inbox is constantly nearing full, receiving mail there is far from optimal. It would be much more efficient for both of us if you would please direct your message to my alternate email account; DCMerlin@gmail.com
(That's the same address I request that readers of my Guide To Okcupid
use to alert me to errors in the guide.)